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My BF and I love each other and plan to move in together soon. I have $$ issues…big issues due to a past relationship. (I was with my ex for 7 yrs…when we split up I had to take over the bills leaving me in major debt…that’s the “short” story) How do I look past the fact that my new BF has no $$ issues…has quite a bit of $$ actually and I’m in the process of trying to get a 3rd job to try to fix my own personal finances? I just got off the phone with him letting him know my plans to get a 3rd job (even though he says he hates the fact I work a 2nd one in the first place). Right before I got off (he stopped at the bank while I was on the phone) he told the teller he wanted to withdrawal $1000. (I got caught in the vicious cash advance cycle as a result of trying to pay the bills after my ex…those of you that have gotten them know how much of a hole they can put you in… that type of $$ would help me out so much right now, and I would be able to pay it back within the next 3-4 months).
I don’t expect him to fix my $$ issues, but at the same time it gets to me that someone I am supposed to start sharing a life with has $$ and I’m busting my a$$ to survive.
I don’t want to ask him for the $$, even though it would help me out soooooo much. This is my $$ issue, not his. But I don’t know if I can live with the fact he has $$ and I don’t, even after all I am trying to do to fix my situation. He said he’d “help me”, but hasn’t talked about the situation since…that was a month ago. He knows I;m still in the same situation.
